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Disclaimer

Correspondence windows are measured in business days (Monday through Friday). Replies are sent during business hours, expect 1-2 replies per day within that window, not instant back-and-forth. Unused days do not roll over or extend past your plan's window. Dear MDJ offers personal perspective and advice, not professional therapy or crisis counseling. If you're dealing with something beyond relationship advice, please reach out to a licensed professional.

What’s on your mind?

Mixed signals, ghosting, situationships, awkward texts, dating apps, breakups, cheating, first dates, red flags... If it’s keeping you wondering, you can write to us about it.

Is he still interested?

What does this even mean?

Should I text back?

Am I overthinking this?

How It Works

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Tell us what happened and what you’re unsure about.

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A real MDJ team member reviews your situation.

You get a private reply

We send practical advice straight to your email.

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Our Experts

Akira brings decades of experience in psychology, counseling, and human behavior to modern dating. Her advice is calm, grounded, and especially useful when emotions, patterns, or long-term relationship questions start to feel hard to untangle.

Akira Sen

Relationship Psychologist

Avery offers practical, relatable advice for queer women navigating dating, relationships, boundaries, and communication. Their approach is warm, direct, and focused on helping people spot patterns without making dating feel like a psychology lecture.

Avery Lane

LGBTQ+ Relationship Educator

Connor focuses on the parts of dating men often overthink: communication, confidence, mixed signals, heartbreak, and what actually works in real relationships. His advice is straightforward, realistic, and built around making dating feel less complicated.

Connor Reid

Men's Dating & Relationship Coach

Natalie writes from a modern dating perspective shaped by years of navigating apps, situationships, mixed signals, and the same frustrating questions many women deal with today. Her advice is relatable, thoughtful, and refreshingly practical.

Natalie Cross

LGBTQ+ Relationship Educator

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